The sad truth is that I have sick relationships.
I’m lucky to have friends I can count on. But when they move from being ‘Single’ to being ‘In a Relationship’, you can’t help but feel as if you’re relegated to second place. The only real reason, I figured, it sucks is because I’m not moving along with them. I’m left alone while they move on, maybe no forwards or anything, but to a different place - leaving you in the same spot, leaving you wishing you were brought along.
People who are attached have no real need to maintain their friendships.
It’s a thing I’ve theorized, and something I hope to see disproved. So by implication, attached friends actually (somehow reluctantly) agree with this. With their special someone, they no longer have to worry that they’re imposing on their friend if they have something they wish to do. Friends not free? Why look! There’s one right by your side. Have an errand to run, don’t wish to bother your friends but don’t want to be alone? Ta-dah!
They fill in all the spaces, take up your weekends, your late nights, your everything. And when they become your everything, where does that leave your friends? Do they want you to leave them out, or selfishly demand that you stay by their side while you see that you’re not their priority anymore?
By the same token, is it ok for friends to want to demand the same sort of time and effort with those who are attached?
See, I over-think relationships. Friendships. I over-think them and spoil it for myself and then have horrible relationships.
The worst one? With myself.
